My
dear friend and extraordinary massage therapist, Eileen Jacobs, shared some
words with me today on the subject of love and self respect. "Saying Yes
to yourself sometimes means saying no to others."
This is hard for most of us to hear. We have been taught that saying no to
someone who needs help or wants something from you is wrong or rude. Often it takes us getting sick or injured to
begin to set boundaries that should have been set a long time previously.
Care givers, therapists, psychics, councilors and many others have an extra
hard time with these boundaries. As a Psychic Medium my work entails helping
and giving on a daily basis. Many like me go above and beyond, sometimes to
their detriment. Even Edgar Casey was told to do only two appointments a day.
His wonderful heart couldn't bear the pain in the world, so he pushed beyond
what spirit told him. This was a big cause to his life being cut short on the
earth plane.
Consider when you say 'no' to someone, not only are you honoring yourself with 'Self-Care', but you are also allowing them to stretch and
grow on their own. Too often we hinder their growth, by 'always being there for
them.' You also teach by example how to
honor and respect oneself. It will give
you more energy to actually be of service when the need arises.
My
best friends are the ones I don't see or even talk to on a daily basis. When we do get together, it is like we have
never been apart. We have busy lives and respect the need each other has for
'down time.' I even had one friend tell
me that was the reason she was able to continue a close and precious friendship
with me...because of that mutual respect.
Let the remainder of this year be about 'Self Care'. If setting boundaries like
this are new to you, then you will feel like you are being selfish. That is
okay...just always honor and respect yourself first, then you can honor and
respect others in a more wholesome way. Now go do something just for you!
