"When a friend is going through a rough time, ie: divorce,
job loss or instability, changing residence, caring for elderly parents or
demanding children, we find it all too easy to give unsolicited advice. We can
find ourselves getting angry and frustrated they are not following the way out
we clearly see and have been showing them. This can cause a rift in the
relationship.
Consider for a moment it is as if they have a wound on one
arm and are holding it with the other hand attempting to stop the bleeding.
Survival mode dictates them from allowing themselves to bleed out and die. You in all your good intentions come to lead
them out of the misery so they can heal. When you grab the hand which holds the
wound, you don't understand their terror. You don't see the now unprotected
wound gushes out their life force. For now they must sit and hold the
wound..just surviving...until the bleeding stops. Then they can begin to heal.
The slowing of the bleed is different for different people.
How amazing would it be for you to simply sit with your friend in quiet and
place your hand over theirs on the wound with your other arm around them. How
comforting to your friend to be loved and accepted into finding the inner
strength to heal. How peaceful to know they are supported and given the time
and space to gather their resources. How awesome for your friend to know when
they are ready to stand, your arms will not leave them, but support their
wobbly steps to healing in the direction they wish to go.
This is being a true friend. This is unconditional love. This is the way of the
Angels!" ~Archangel Anael~
