Many people go into survival mode during arguments. “Let’s
just get this fight over with and move on to the makeup.” But that solves
nothing. One or both partners may still harbor bitterness from unexpressed
emotions. These can be resolved by communicating and making a plan.
Both partners should be allowed to speak with the intention
that both will be expressing feelings that now can be healed.
In most cases, simply, telling the person the story you are
imagining when they make a particular statement or take a certain action, will
break down the communication barrier. For example, “When you say________ , what
I’m hearing is________.
When you seek the truth behind the “he said, she said,” you
have achieved real truth and real communication.
So what story will you tell by the light of the moon? A
romance, a tragedy or a comedy? It’s up to you. Just be sure that you and your
partner are starring in the same movie.
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